"Does the Internet change how we die and mourn? An overview"

Walter, T., Hourizi, R., Moncur, W. and Pitsillides, S. (2011). Does the internet change how we die and mourn? An overview. Omega: Journal of Death and Dying, 64(4): 275-302.

full text (pdf)

Very interesting overview of recent research. Here’s the abstract:

The article outlines the issues that the internet presents to death studies. Part 1 describes a range of online practices that may affect dying, the funeral, grief and memorialisation, inheritance and archaeology; it also summarises the kinds of research that have been done in these fields. Part 2 argues that these new online practices have implications for, and may be illuminated by, key concepts in death studies: the sequestration (or separation from everyday life) of death and dying, disenfranchisement of grief, private grief, social death, illness and grief narratives, continuing bonds with the dead, and the presence of the dead in society. In particular, social network sites can bring dying and grieving out of both the private and public realms and into the everyday life of social networks beyond the immediate family, and provide an audience for once private communications with the dead.

"…there are three primary factors which “turbocharge” online sexuality and make it such an attractive venue for sexual pursuits. He called these the “Triple-A Engine,” and they include accessibility (i.e., millions of sites available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week), affordability (i.e., competition on the WWW keeps all prices low and there are a host of ways to get “free” sex), and anonymity (i.e., people perceive their communications to be anonymous)."

Cooper, A., Delmonico, D. L. and Burg, R. (2000). Cybersex Users, Abusers, and Compulsives: New Findings and Implications. Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, 7(5): 5-29.

This study is more than a decade old. The authors describe cybersex activity as “pornography exchange, real-time discussions, and compact disk (CD-ROM) distribution.” But it serves to explain Cooper et al’s 1998 “Triple-A Engine”, a theory that has been used in research over the last 12 years to describe why the web is such a successful conduit for sexual activity.

In the original paper, the authors are more positive about sex online than much of the subsequent research that tests this theory.

Unfortunately, this article is behind a paywall, but for those without Ivory Tower access, here are a few quotes from my notes:

Anonymity, accessibility,  and affordability (Triple-A Engine) seem to increase the chances that the Internet will become problematic for those who either already have a problem with sexual compulsivity or those who have psychological vulnerabilities rendering them at risk for developing such compulsivity.

As an aside (and as was described in the Hate chapter), predicting “vulnerabilities” is a notoriously difficult task.

Another:

the power of anonymity, accessibility, and affordability (Triple-A Engine) interacts with certain underlying personality factors of at-risk users  and leads to patterns and behaviors that, without intervention, may deve lop into online sexually compulsive behavior. 

once again, “at risk” is the key thing here. not *everyone* who goes online becomes a raging sex fiend.

(Source: tandfonline.com)

"Examining the systemic impact of Internet pornography… is relatively uncharted territory and the body of systemically-focused research is limited."

Manning, J. C. (2006). The Impact of Internet Pornography on Marriage and the Family: A Review of the ResearchSexual Addiction & Compulsivity, 13: 131-165.

This article is behind a paywall, but I have access to the full text as a Visiting Fellow at the LSE. So here are my notes.

to bear in mind: this is an article from 2006. That means this review does not consider the evolving ubiquity of web technology on devices like tablets and smartphones. Extremely unfortunately, there’s a one-year embargo on an article published in the same journal in a special issue on cybersex in April 2012 that updates this research, looking specifically at the impact on adolescents. For an abstract of that article, go here.

* Three points of methodological criticism. This is important when considering the validity of the reported results.

1) The most frequently cited studies about the negative impact of pornography in general (not specifically internet porn) have been criticised: 

(a) for being limited to experimental situations, (b) for lacking real punishment or social controls, (c) for using college students as the normative group, and (d) for the ethical inability to produce real violence (Davies, 1997).

2) Meta-analyses looking at the effects of general porn on, “(a) increased callousness toward women; (b) trivialization of rape as a criminal offense; (c) distorted perceptions about sexuality; (d) increased appetite for more deviant and bizarre types of pornography (escalation and addiction); (e) devaluation of the importance of monogamy; (f)  decreased satisfaction with partner’s sexual performance, affection, and physical appearance; (g) doubts about the value of marriage; (h) decreased desire to have children; and (i) viewing non-monogamous relationships as normal and natural behavior (Drake, 1994)” demonstrate positive correlations (CORRELATION IS NOT CAUSATION), but these are really very very small effects. Like really small effects, ranging from Pearson’s r’s of between -0.137 (pictorial nudity and aggressive behaviour) and 0.216 (violent sexual behaviour and consumption/aggression).

The strongest correlation you can get is +/- 1.0. The ones reported in this meta-analysis are very small (albeit significant) relationships.

3) The evidence of impact in most of the studies in this review come from clinical settings (a fact that Manning freely admits), but this is a common problem in this kind of research: as she says when making a concession for those couples and clinicians who describe porn as an “enriching aspect of marital intimacy” when “consumed, in a mutual, consensual, and open manner”:

couples who mutually benefit from pornography are unlikely to seek treatment or  encounter caregivers who are aware of related studies.

Thus the frame through which pornography research is often conducted problematises it de facto.

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results.

* “While I don’t think you can say the Internet is causing more divorces, it does make it easier to engage in the sorts of behaviors that traditionally lead to divorce” (Dedmon, 2002).

* offline research (supported by a qualitative study from 2002) indicates a decrease in emotional intimacy with with a partner when exposed to porn over time

* “women in relationships (married, engaged, or girlfriends) with men perceived as heavy (offline) pornography consumers, decreased and altered sexual intimacy is a common symptom.”

* online sexual content can be helpful in increasing intimacy when a user looks to it for education, community support and to meet new people, but when it’s an outlet for stress, it can have adverse effects on relationships - Cooper, Galbreath, and Becker (2004)

* why use it? Based on a sample of N=384 primarily heterosexual men, Cooper, Galbreath & Becker (2004 report:

1. 80.5% used online sexual activity (OSA) to distract themselves or take a break.

2. 56.5% used OSA to deal with stress.

3. 43.0% used OSA to engage in sexual activities they would not do in real life.

4. 25.3% used OSA to educate themselves.

5. 16.1% used OSA to meet people with whom to have offline sexual activities.

6. 11.7% used OSA to meet people to date.

7. And 9.1% used OSA to get support with sexual matters.

* on fidelity:

Internet pornography is associated with activities that can undermine marital exclusivity and fidelity. What cannot be determined, however, is what comes first—does Internet pornography influence unfaithful behavior or does unfaithful behavior coincide with preexisting traits that predispose someone to normalize Internet pornography viewing?

emphasis added

Monica Whitty from University of Leicester (the fantastic @cyberspy on twitter) is referenced in this paper (her 2003 paper, Logging onto Love: An examination of men and women’s flirting behaviour both offline and on the Internet); specifically, it’s her work on what’s considered (in)fidelity:

both men and women perceive online sexual activity as an act of betrayal that is as authentic and real as offline acts, and that Internet pornography use correlated significantly with emotional infidelity (N = 1, 117, 468 males and 649 females; r = .41, p < 0.001)

(now *that’s* what I call a Pearson’s r..)

Monica and her colleague Laura-Lee Quigley updated this study with a 2008 paper,  Emotional and Sexual Infidelity Offline and in Cyberspace (abstract only).

* impact on adolescents/kids:

According to figures from Nielsen//NetRatings (2005), in the United States during the month of April 2005, 4,803 children and adolescents  between the ages of 2 and 17 were exposed to or sought out pornography online. This age group also represented 13.97% of all online pornography consumption.

It’s really difficult to draw conclusions about the impact of online pornographic material on adolescents based on the studies Manning reviews because so much of it is so old (between 2000 to 2005), and so much has changed. However, she summarises the research thus:

Research shows that exposure to pornography can make a lasting impression in young people and that this impression is most often described using emotions such as disgust, shock, embarrassment, anger, fear, and sadness.

The consumption of Internet pornography and/or involvement in sexualized chat can harm the social and sexual development of youth and undermine their success in future relationships.

Pornography consumption in youth has been associated with earlier onset of sexual intercourse, as well as increased likelihood of engaging in anal sex and sexual relations with people they are not romantically engaged with.

The emphasis here is on exposure, rather than specific content (as many levy accusations against the web for escalating more extreme activity).

(Source: ingentaconnect.com)

"Possible Selves represent individuals’ ideas of what they might become, what they would like to become, and what they are afraid of becoming, and thus provide a conceptual link beteen cognition and motivation. PSs are the cognitive components of hopes, fears, goals, and threats; they give the specific self-relevant form, meaning, organization, and direction to these dynamics. It is suggested that PSs function as incentives for future behavior and to provide an evaluative and interpretive context for the current view of self."

Markus, H. & Nurius, P. (1986, Sept). Possible SelvesAmerican Psychologist, 41(9): 954-969.

Abstract only.

I tested this theory of identity development in online environments in my Masters research. Markus and Nurius’ work provided a framework for how we choose which new aspects of our desired or undesired selves we test online - a safe, relatively consequence-free space - and whether they are adopted into the offline self.

It’s a very satisfying and parsimonious theory, and appears to be apt both online and off.

"He externalised what was important for him, so he would have the cues he needed to remember something later."

Prof Viktor Mayer-Schonberger of the OII, in a review of his book, Delete: The Virtue of Forgetting in the Digital Age from The Guardian.

as an aside: this explains why I am “cryptic” on Twitter. i explicitly use the service to externalise things that will trigger - for me and for me alone - a whole memory i can recall later.

More from the review:

The overabundance of cheap storage on hard disks means that it is no longer economical to even decide whether to remember or forget.

“compelling institutional forgetting”

So much of our past is so readily retrievable in the digital age that we can’t help but stumble across things we’d do better to forget.

Some gems in here for those interested in misinformation, state control of the content of the web, propaganda and news in the digital space. From the Harvard Berkman Centre conference of the same name (6-7 March 2012), and via their twitter feed.

"While online, some people self-disclose or act out more frequently or intensely than they would in person. This article explores six factors that interact with each other in creating this online disinhibition effect: dissociative anonymity, invisibility, asynchronicity, solipsistic introjection, dissociative imagination, and minimization of authority. Personality variables also will influence the extent of this disinhibition. Rather than thinking of disinhibition as the revealing of an underlying “true self,” we can conceptualize it as a shift to a constellation within self-structure, involving clusters of affect and cognition that differ from the in-person constellation."

Suler, J. (2004). The Online Disinhibition Effect. Cyberpsychology & Behavior, Vol 7(3): 321-326.

Just the abstract. AKA GIFT.

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Three dimensions regarding digital death were identified.

First dimension (D1) deals with the death of a living being. The death of a human begs the question: what happens to the mass of digital information left behind? Are there parts of the information space one would like to ‘leave’ to loved ones, for example photos or financial information. In addition, one must question whether there are any parts of the information space that one would want to ‘die’ with them. An equally important aspect of human death is the grieving process and whether the ritual of death is more important, or as important, as the dead body. If this is the case then can virtualization of death rituals assist in the grieving process? One can perhaps get a feeling of this process by wondering into a graveyard in Second Life.

Second dimension (D2) deals with the death of digital information. The death of information itself is also to be considered when your digital information dies before you. For example, the death of a person’s personal computer or hard disk. How does this ‘loss’ of a personal computer or hard disk affect people? This directly relates to how much information was lost and to how important and/or personal the information was. Another form of ‘information death’ is when a system progresses or technology advances and your information is left in a format that cannot be read, for example the move from floppy disk to CD. This information is then lost or ‘dead.’ Note that the preservation of digital material is a current worldwide concern.

Third dimension (D3) deals with immortality of digital information and the need to engineer its death. Digital information can be immortal, because anything you write in the virtual world remains. If it remains in circulation, your ‘bits’ will remain forever. However, this can also cause problems as there are an increasing number of people placing information online, 5 every day and this information remains forever, even after someone has died And we are only at the infancy of the Digital Era! If this trend continues we will soon be buried in graveyards of ‘dead’ personal information.

"

From DigitalDeath.eu, a site inspired by the 2009 paper, “Digital Death” (full text) by researchers in the Design Department at Goldsmiths (University of London) and the Department of Social & Political Sciences (University of Cyprus):

S. Pitsillides,S. Katsikides, M. Conreen. (2009). Digital Death, “Images of Virtuality: Conceptualizations and Applications in Everyday Life”, An IFIP WG9.5 “Virtuality and Society” International Workshop, April 23-24, Athens, Greece.

Paper abstract:

In this paper we introduce the concept of Digital Death, a topic we believe has not been discussed and researched in the literature previously, and argue that it is worthy of further research. We propose three different dimensions of digital death, analyse each one, and propose a number of representative applications which could be designed from a better understanding of digital death. We develop our theory and evaluate our ideas through background literature survey, discussions and questionnaires.

"Software piracy is a damaging and important moral issue, which is widely believed to be unchecked in particular areas of the globe. This cross-cultural study examines differences in morality and behavior toward software piracy in Singapore versus the United States, and reviews the cultural histories of Asia versus the United States to explore why these differences occur. The paper is based upon pilot data collected in the U.S. and Singapore, using a tradeoff analysis methodology and analysis. The data reveal some fascinating interactions between the level of ethical transgression and the rewards or consequences which they produce."

Swinyard, W.R., Rinne, H. & Keng Kau, A. (1990). The morality of software piracy: A cross-cultural analysis. Journal of Business Ethics, 9(8): 655-664.

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This is, I’m sure, a very interesting article looking at the cross-cultural conceptualisations of ownership. Unfortunately it’s behind a firewall.

Notable: it’s from 1990 - very early!

"How do we determine who owns what? This article reports evidence indicating that we typically assume that the first person who possesses an object is its owner. In Experiments 1 and 2, participants read cartoons in which two children each take a turn playing with a toy. Participants selected the character who first possessed the toy when judging who owned it, but not when judging which character liked it more. In Experiment 3, participants read stories based on the Pierson v. Post (1805) property law case. In line with the appellate court’s ruling in that case, participants selected the character who first captured and possessed an animal as its owner over another character who had pursued it earlier. Together, these findings provide evidence for an assumption that specifically guides our reasoning about ownership and that may lead everyday intuitions about property to be generally consistent with property law."

Friedman, O. (2008). First possession: An assumption guiding information about who owns what. Psychonomic Bulletin & Review, 15(2): 290-295.

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A nice cross-historical account of psychological ownership relevant to a legal framework.