"Does the Internet change how we die and mourn? An overview"

Walter, T., Hourizi, R., Moncur, W. and Pitsillides, S. (2011). Does the internet change how we die and mourn? An overview. Omega: Journal of Death and Dying, 64(4): 275-302.

full text (pdf)

Very interesting overview of recent research. Here’s the abstract:

The article outlines the issues that the internet presents to death studies. Part 1 describes a range of online practices that may affect dying, the funeral, grief and memorialisation, inheritance and archaeology; it also summarises the kinds of research that have been done in these fields. Part 2 argues that these new online practices have implications for, and may be illuminated by, key concepts in death studies: the sequestration (or separation from everyday life) of death and dying, disenfranchisement of grief, private grief, social death, illness and grief narratives, continuing bonds with the dead, and the presence of the dead in society. In particular, social network sites can bring dying and grieving out of both the private and public realms and into the everyday life of social networks beyond the immediate family, and provide an audience for once private communications with the dead.

"In traditional Chinese culture, people burn paper offerings for gods, ghosts, and ancestors. There are paper objects for religious occasions, for festivals, for ceremonial events—part of both public worship and private devotion. In this cosmology, or world view, fire transforms all these paper objects into real things in the other world….I have found all manner of paper technologies—a desktop PC with a Windows operating system, USB ports, and a mouse; a flat panel LCD TV screen with a remote control and HDMI outputs; game consoles with all the buttons and hints of small blinking lights; and a branded mobile phone, prepaid phone cards, a charger and a carrying case. The products are always subtly re-branded—Nakia, Panosonic—and the logos are tweaked, but they are recognizable technology."

— Bell, G. (2011, Dec). Life, Death, and the iPad: Cultural Symbols and Steve Jobs. Communications of the ACM, 54(12): 24-25.

"Web-based memorializing bears a diverse array of characteristics, only some of which are consistent with offline memorializing"

Foot, K., Warnick, B. and Schneider, S. M. (2005). Web-Based Memorializing After September 11: Toward a Conceptual FrameworkJournal of Computer-Mediated Communication, 11(1), article 4.

I’m not sure I agree with this. Online and offline memorialisation sites may have different forms, but I argue the meanings for the mourners and their functions remain the same.

Foot and Schneider argue primarily that the hypertextuality - i.e., being able to link around (with the associated personal political decisions implicit or explicit therein) - and the opportunity for those “besides the original site producer” to contribute their own politics/agendas to the place of mourning/memorialisation, are the things that make the web different for this purpose.

I wonder, however, whether the public-ness of the web makes mourning for an individual more like mourning for a public event (e.g., 11 Sept 2011, 7 July 2007 etc) or whether the public-ness is simply another public placeholder, like a physical tombstone: no one is restricted from visiting it and paying his or her respects.

To wit, they make this interesting observation/draw this conclusion:

these Web sites and others served as scenes of collective action and cultural performance (Browne, 1995). They enabled witnesses to contribute to rescue efforts, express their shock and horror, and provide comfort to others. In so doing and insofar as they were archived, these sites presently contribute to the historical record of the attacks. They represent a version of the past which, when taken in concert with other versions, can provide a variegated picture of the forms of social action and reaction that marked post-September 11 events—and this picture contributes to our present understanding of how these events were experienced and understood.

emphasis added

"..all societies see death as a transition for the person who dies. How people prepare themselves for this transition and how the survivors behave after a death has occurred varies a great deal but even here there are common themes…Crying, fear and anger are so common as to be virtually ubiquitous and most cultures provide social sanction for the expression of these emotions in the funeral rites and customs of mourning which follow bereavement…Western cultures, which tend to discourage the over expression of emotion at funerals, are highly deviant."

from Parkes, C.M., Laungani, P. and Young, B. (1997). Death and Bereavement Across Cultures. Psychology Press: Hove, UK. 

And a nice reality check for Modern (Wo)Man:

Each generation and each society has come up with its own solutions to the problem of death and has enshrined them in a complex web of beliefs and customs which, at first glance, seem so diverse as to be impossible to digest. Yet there are common themes that run through all of them.

Let’s see how they present themselves on the web then, shall we?

The authors of this edited volume are psychiatrists, and highly respected in the field of grief and bereavement.

A trove of conceptual information on mourning from The Encyclopedia of Death and Dying. Topics on this page include conceptual development:

Concepts from three theoretically and clinically related domains are being incorporated into the thinking about mourning. Each has generated a number of important implications about mourning

distinctions from grief:

Grief refers to the process of experiencing the psychological, behavioral, social, and physical reactions to the perception of loss

[Mourning] refers to… the consequent conscious and unconscious processes and courses of action that promote three operations, each with its own particular focus, that enable the individual ultimately to accommodate the loss

requirements for healthy mourning:

According to Rando, there are six specific “R” processes that must be completed successfully by the individual in order for the three reorientations—in relation to the deceased, self, and external world—of healthy mourning to occur

duration and course:

There is no general time frame for the length of mourning, it is dependent upon the unique constellation of factors associated with the mourner’s particular bereavement

and “mourning in a changing sociocultural milieu” (my favourite bit):

Twentieth-century sociocultural and technological trends in Western society have significantly increased the prevalence of complicated mourning by causing a rise in virtually all of the seven high-risk factors predisposing to complicated mourning. The trends that have contributed most substantially to this include, among others, urbanization, technicalization, secularization, deritualization, increased social mobility, social reorganization, multiculturalism, escalating violence, wide economic disparity, medical advances, and contemporary political realities

More specific cultural differences about mourning and death traditions are described on Wikipedia, BeliefNet (ten “transition rituals” in spiritual customs from Baha’i to Pagan Presbyterianism) and, oddly, the Entertaining pages of About.com (funerals and mourning rituals for the five major world religions) and About’s Chinese Culture pages.

"spiritualism is an excellent focal point from which the various dynamics inherent in the Victorian society can be examined and understood"

One example of the cultural contextuality of death practices and beliefs:

As with Victorian religion and society at large, spiritualism sought to successfully integrate the traditional spiritual beliefs with the new tenets and methods of science (and the new confidence inspired by science). One writer claimed that “authority, in the world of physical science is backed up by the knowledge that it can always be checked,” as assertion that the modem religions of the nineteenth century and spiritualism hoped to be able to duplicate.

emphasis added

Thanks, medical science.

Interesting also that the author describes the relationship between “the scientific approach to spiritualism” and “the new field of psychology”, particularly how spirtualists rationalised their science using theoretical constructs of the self that were emerging in my own field: 

One writer applauded the discovery of the concept of “personality,” of a mental being wholly separate from the physical self, and related this as a “scientific proof” of the possibility of the “survival of the human personality after physical death.”

Points to a new rationalisation during that period of the concept of a soul separate from the physical human: “The general principle of spiritualism, that the soul was immortal, was seen to be proven by science”. This has been under debate throughout human history, and seems to be learned at an early age.

Frankenstein was, of course, the artificial intelligence debate of the Romantic Period. 

In Gregory, C. (1989-1990). A Willing Suspension of DisbeliefThe Student Historical Journal, Vol 21: Loyola University.

HT Ben

"

“Gilgamish, why dost thou run, (forasmuch as) the life which thou seekest
Thou shalt not find?” (Whereat) Gilgamish answer’d the warrior Shamash:

“Shall I, after I roam up and down o’er the waste as a wand’rer,
Lay my head in the bowels of earth, and throughout the years slumber
Ever and aye? Let mine eyes see the Sun and be sated with brightness,
(Yea, for) the darkness is (banish’d) afar, if wide be the brightness.
When will the man who is dead (ever) look on the light of the Sunshine?”

"

Gilgamesh in Terror of Death Seeks Eternal Life.

From the Epic of Gilgamesh.

(full text from the 1901 translation of the Mesopotamian epic poem by R. Campbell Thompson on King of Heroes)

"Even though you can find an instance of any kind of porn you can imagine, people search for and spend money/time on 20 sexual interests."

Q&A: The Researchers Who Analyzed All the Porn on the Internet from 19 May 2011 in TIME.com

I have a problem with a few things in this interview. They stem from the same root that can be summed up in this quote: 

I’m a computational neuroscientist. I view the mind as software.

Hmmm…does not compute.

OK, what I mean is thus: while their insights into online porn consumption are interesting (and refreshingly balanced), in this interview the authors do make some unfounded generalisations about human sexuality because they are constructing the human as a collection of 1s and 0s.

In terms of making the conclusions they draw more robust, it would have been helpful if they’d combined this data analysis with interviews or surveys or something human rather than patterns of a particular kind of (search) behaviour. I struggle to connect porn searches with the author’s non-data-based conclusions about motivations (“another fundamental difference between men and women…”), preferences (“men are wired to be sexually jealous”, “women are often aroused by women being submissive”) and outcomes (“Rather than making people want to go out and rape, it satisfies the urge.”). What they’ve got is what people search for, not how they feel (say it with me, folks: correlation is not causation).

Still, it’s useful to have someone translate a ginormous dataset about how people are navigating sex online. The dataset in question is approximately 400 million searches on Dogpile.com (do people *still* use Dogpile?!) between 2009-2010.

Read more about their results on the accompanying blog on Psychology Today.

HT @charlesarthur

"…there are three primary factors which “turbocharge” online sexuality and make it such an attractive venue for sexual pursuits. He called these the “Triple-A Engine,” and they include accessibility (i.e., millions of sites available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week), affordability (i.e., competition on the WWW keeps all prices low and there are a host of ways to get “free” sex), and anonymity (i.e., people perceive their communications to be anonymous)."

Cooper, A., Delmonico, D. L. and Burg, R. (2000). Cybersex Users, Abusers, and Compulsives: New Findings and Implications. Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, 7(5): 5-29.

This study is more than a decade old. The authors describe cybersex activity as “pornography exchange, real-time discussions, and compact disk (CD-ROM) distribution.” But it serves to explain Cooper et al’s 1998 “Triple-A Engine”, a theory that has been used in research over the last 12 years to describe why the web is such a successful conduit for sexual activity.

In the original paper, the authors are more positive about sex online than much of the subsequent research that tests this theory.

Unfortunately, this article is behind a paywall, but for those without Ivory Tower access, here are a few quotes from my notes:

Anonymity, accessibility,  and affordability (Triple-A Engine) seem to increase the chances that the Internet will become problematic for those who either already have a problem with sexual compulsivity or those who have psychological vulnerabilities rendering them at risk for developing such compulsivity.

As an aside (and as was described in the Hate chapter), predicting “vulnerabilities” is a notoriously difficult task.

Another:

the power of anonymity, accessibility, and affordability (Triple-A Engine) interacts with certain underlying personality factors of at-risk users  and leads to patterns and behaviors that, without intervention, may deve lop into online sexually compulsive behavior. 

once again, “at risk” is the key thing here. not *everyone* who goes online becomes a raging sex fiend.

(Source: tandfonline.com)

"People use mobile phones more for informal and intimate purposes
than for work or formal communication."

Park, Y., Lim, C. and Nam, T. (2010). CheekTouch: An Affective Interaction Technique while Speaking on the Mobile Phone. CHI 2012: 10-15 April 2010, Atlanta, GA.

I’m in danger of falling down a rabbit hole of haptic technologies…

full text pdf of the poster the researcher team presented at CHI in 2010.

Here’s the abstract:

We present a new affective interaction technique, called CheekTouch, by combining tactile feedback, delivered through the cheek, and multi-finger input, while speaking on the mobile phone. We designed a prototype by using a multi-touch mobile device and a 4x3 vibrotactile display device. We identified six affective touch behaviors (pinching, stroking, patting, slapping, kissing and tickling) that can be exchanged through one another’s cheeks while speaking on the phone. We mapped the affective touch behaviors on tactile feedback expressions of the vibrotactile display. Results of a preliminary user study suggest that our technique is positively evaluated by the participants and applicable to intimate and emotional communication.